Tuesday Secrets

Tuesday, March 03, 2009

+My fiance doesn't know about this blog. He comments once in a while that I spend a lot of time on the Internet. He'll come up behind me when I'm online and be all, "Whatcha dooooin'?" and will see that I'm reading a blog, and then says "You're so nosy", and goes back to playing Street Fighter 4 on Xbox or whatever he was doing before. It's not that I don't want him to know I'm blogging, and it's not that I'm posting about things that I wouldn't discuss with him. For those of you with significant others, what's the deal? Does he/she know you're blogging? Do they like your blog?

+I'm trying to lose a little bit of weight, about 10 pounds, and it's really difficult for a number of reasons. Number one is that people are not encouraging. Number two, I looove to eat. Realistically, I know I don't need to lose weight for health reasons. I'm 5'6" and, since this post is all about disclosing secrets, I weigh 126 pounds. My BMI is 20.3 which is nicely within the healthy range, yet I think about my weight and my body almost all the time. I would like to get to about 115 pounds for the summer, which puts my BMI at 18.6. 18.5 is underweight. Being right on the cusp of underweight sounds just about perfect. I lost a bunch of weight in the past year and a half or so (I was about 145 at my heaviest) and have maintained my current weight since the summer, but I feel softer or mushier now, somehow. I think when you're losing weight and seeing progress and then you plateau, it feels like you've actually gotten bigger since you're in maintenance mode and not actively losing any longer. I just want to be able to get dressed and not worry about how big my ass looks or whether my arms are soft. I compare myself to other girls all the time and I'd like to be able to stop...it's exhausting.

+If I could have any job in the world I'd be Carrie Bradshaw, except my column would be online as well as in print, so I could interact with readers through social media. Blogging for a living sounds pretty ideal. When I wrote for the Tribune-Post my favourite thing about the job was writing a column. The other reporter despised writing columns and loved the fact that I was always happy to do it. Give me a topic and I guarantee I have an opinion on it.

+Growing up, I thought my family was poor because my mom didn't work. I figured that because we were a single-income household we were roughly 50% as rich as my friends. It wasn't until much later in life that I understood she didn't work because she didn't have to.

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  1. 1. BF knows I have a blog. He in fact, just learned WHAT a blog is.

    BF: Don't you have to moderate the articles people write for porn and all that stuff? It's a hell of a job!

    FB: Umm.. I write everything for the blog.

    BF: Oh. So you don't block pedophiles?

    FB: .. Honey it isn't a FORUM!!! :)

    So cute. He isn't really interested I think but he has seen my blog header and page a number of times so I think if he wanted, he could Google me.

    2. Wow! You're quite skinny actually. I'm 5'4" (or so my doc says) and I'm 130 - 135. But weight spreads v. evenly across my body so I'm quite skinny everywhere except in my round little belly that I couldn't ever get rid of.

    As long as BF is happy (he's happier that I'm heavier and not as skinny as he puts it), I'm thrilled that someone will not get on my case about doing crunches (true story).

    3. I'd like to be a Carrie Bradshaw too. :) Maybe your blog could be your column?

    4. Having options of your mom at home is wonderful :)

  2. The bf does know that I blog, and we often have conversations that end in "This is totally going on the blog, isn't it?" He is the first guy I've dated that I've told about the blog. I was afraid all the other guys would either a) think I was a total nerd or b) want to read it and then they would see how I really feel about them and go running for the hills.

  3. Hey it's great that you're sharing your secrets, but don't steal my weekly feature my dear!

    Please remember to credit me if you want to keep doing this! Let's be friends, yeah?

    My secret? I used to let people walk all over me because I thought it meant that they would be my friends. Not anymore, now I speak up! It's lost me a few "friends" but I'm so much better off!

  4. ^^^Wow that chick is mean.

    Friggin internet tough guys. Anyway here's something for you I was gonna post earlier but I had to go down to starbucks with you for your morning coffee :)


  5. Sorry Ginger!! Didn't mean to yoink your idea. I had seen similar things here and there and didn't realize it was a unique thing.

  6. Hubs doesn't know about my blog. Actually, nobody in my life does, and that's how I want it to be.


  7. No problem, Amy! I think it's great that you're sharing with your readers, I know I sure like to read your blog!

    I just need to keep the uniqueness of my blog, that's all :) I know you're in the ad world too, so you understand branding and all that.

    Thanks for your understanding and keep up the great writing :)

  8. Hubby knows I blog, but doesn't read it. Acutally I don't think he really knows how to use the computer very well. He can get to his Invoices (for his clients) and to his email. Normally he has me do it if I'm around.

    I would love to lose about 20 pounds, but I have no time to exersise. I sit all day long and then I sit for 2 more hours almost everynight at a rehearsal. Good luck with the weight loss. And who cares what everyone else thinks, it is your body. As long as your are not unhealthly skinner then they need to shut it.

    Thanks for sharing!!

  9. The weight thing is so familiar. I'm 5'8" and 127 lbs AND my heaviest was ~145 a few years ago. Two years ago I went through a phase where I didn't exactly have a problem but I felt my body would be perfect near underweight and dipped to around 119-121.

    I didn't feel unhealthy, per se, but I did feel like it started to become an obsession.

    Then I had one summer where I became super fit by finding an activity I really loved (surfing... followed by ashtanga yoga) and I stopped with the weight and BMI calcs because I was still the same 'size' but with toned biceps and new abdominal muscles that were impossible for a near-underweight body (and made me feel super hot). Having a little muscle, my body now maintains weight better on its own and is enviably flab free.

    So I guess I'm saying, have you tried ditching the scale/calorie counting and doing something to tone the parts of your body you're not satisfied with instead?

  10. my bf knows i have a blog but he really doesnt care about it enough to read it, i'll be on the net all day and he'll say "are you blogging again?" emphasis on blogging. He thinks im wierd.

    I let some of my friends know about my blog.. but other than that I like to blog for strangers.

  11. about the weight part your heaviest is kinda what i'm at I usually weigh 130 (i'm 5'6 to) but i gained like ten plus pounds sinnce starting college. My question is how did you get back down to 126?

  12. @ bri the biggest thing I did differently was cut way back on alcohol. I got in the habit of going out 3+ times a week and drinking 5 or more drinks every time.

    5 drinks x 100 calories a drink = 500 calories x 3 nights= 1,500 extra calories a week...so I was gaining approximately two pounds a week JUST in liquor. Plus, drinking means eating crappier foods like drive-thru, greasy pizza, wings etc...the weight gain was inevitable.

    I cut WAY back on drinking and just stopped eating fast foods altogether. I used sparkpeople.com which is SUCH a good site. You track everything you eat and your workouts to see what you're really accomplishing. Enter your goal weight and the date you'd like to reach it by and it will tell you how many calories you need to eat and burn to reach your goal. It was probably the biggest helper for me. Best of all it's free!